Thursday, March 23, 2017

My Birth Day Twins

© 2017 by Joyce Mason

At least 20 years ago, when I used AOL as my internet provider, I searched the member directory to find other people who shared my exact date of birth. I wanted to do some experiential, personal research on my chart. I only ended up having a depth conversation with one of the handful of respondents, and our life parallels were interesting indeed. Since I was born late in the day on September 22, 1947, I have a Cap Moon and my “twin” was born enough earlier in the day to be a Sagi-Moon-ius. Seeing my chart acted out with the difference in lunar flavor was interesting indeed. While I can’t remember her name to save my soul, it was a bit unusual but not unheard of and started with a W. (No relation to former President W.) With her Sag Moon, love of travel and things foreign were more prominent in our otherwise near-identical charts. She was a diplomat who had been stationed over the years in several different countries overseas. I saw a lot of our shared Libran emphasis, too, in matters of justice and saving the tails of Americans abroad when they got into trouble.

Perhaps the most startling thing about our compared notes was this. She had married her first husband twice—divorced and remarried him later, just as I had. I almost felt eerie. On top of that, she outdid me! She married, divorced and remarried both of her husbands. Who knew that our particular Venus in Libra experienced coupling and mind-changing so seamlessly; we applied it to matrimonial do-overs.

My next encounter with a birthday twin was totally unexpected. I don’t have the most common day, much less day and year of birth. I’ve been attending an amazing class on Mindful Self-Compassion. I can remember joking beforehand that the class would have to be custom-made for a Virgo, much less a Radical Virgo. With Mercury as our Sun ruler (mind and mental emphasis) and self-deprecation one of our worst potholes on the road of life, I felt I was Home Sweet Home even before I even got to the first class.

There I met W2. (It’s tax season so I can’t help myself, but honestly, her first name begins with a W., too.) We were sitting next to each other in the first class and got to talking about how we were both turning 70 this year. I have long given up accosting people for their birth information on the first “date,” and I consciously chose not to take it further. We had an affinity, and that was warm and fuzzy enough. The biggest wow we discovered in our first encounter: I was given up for adoption and she had to give a baby up for adoption when she was quite young. We’d both had positive mother-and-child reunions.

The next time I saw W2, it came up again. I asked her what month she was turning 70, and she said September. When I asked her what day and she said the 22nd, I almost fell off my chair. “OMG, we’re birth twins!” You think I might have guessed by the fact that she had such a “similar story,” to quote her, and that she loves my former therapist, an author of an amazing book about the psychology and ramifications of adoption.

My friends may call me The Queen of Synchronicity, but I hadn’t had this level of meaningful coincidence in a long time. Conditions haven’t been right again until lately for me to be so in the flow of the Cosmic Tractor Beam. I’ve had way too much on my plate adjusting to being a caregiver and other life changes. The class is giving me tools that are bringing me back to my old self, which this “chance” encounter underscores. W2 is hunting down her birth certificate, but since she knows hers was an early morning birth to my evening, she’s surely a Sagi-moon-ius, too, like W1.

What is the value of finding a birth twin? Affirmation for one. W2 was sharing how hard it is for her to give her honest opinion, fearing push back and an inability to defend herself. She could have taken that sentence right out of my thought cloud where it frequently resides. 

There’s also the possibility of seeing new ways of “doing” your chart. Everyone plays the Astro-cards they’re dealt in slightly different ways, and I’m looking forward to seeing what I can learn from W2 in that regard—and vice versa, I’m sure.

We have a lot of tools for finding people nowadays. If you’re on social media, a simple post or tweet saying you’d like to do some astrological research on people who share your birthday. State the date and see who connects with you.

I would love to hear your experiences and what value you’ve found in getting to know your cosmic twin.


Photo Credit: Elena Scheweitzer - Fotolia


shelly said...

Well, Ms Radical Virgo Extraodinare, here I am, another birth twin.
September 22, 1957. I turn 60 this year.

I resonated deeply with your column when I found it & subscribed,
oh, maybe 3 years ago? It's your content, not necc your birthday
that makes it so, but we can't exclude the possibility...

I tell people that I'm 'so Virgo' that I'm something else:
Pluto, AC, Moon, Mercury, Mars, & Sun all in Virgo.
Kinda crazy, no?

more, more, more.
Lots of Virgo love to you from Montana.
Shelly 6xVirgo.

Joyce Mason said...

Even born 10 years apart, we have lots in common. You are definitely a Radical Virgo! I think the stellium and the last degree of the sign tell the tale.

Joyce Mason said...

PS - Love back, Shelly!

shelly said...

Dear Joyce-Sister-Soul-Virgo:
I'm guessing by 'the last degree of the sign' you mean that our sun is in 29' Virgo?
But the stellium?? Why would two people born 10 years apart both have a stellium,
I wonder... How many heavenly bodies do you have grouped together?
My 6 'objects' are mostly in my first house, though Pluto lags in my 12th.

At 60, I'm only just feeling that I'm coming into my own! and loving it.
Maybe because I'm single right now. We Virgos seem to love being partnered,
and seem to thrive when alone, do you agree?

Joyce Mason said...

Hi, again, Shelly! Yes, I meant we share the last degree of Virgo Sun. I think the last degree is an accumulation of the sign's full experience. That tends toward "radical" in the sense of being the root (another meaning of Radical) Virgo experience.

I meant you had a stellium as part of your very Virgoness. I have Venus conjunct Sun in Libra then Mercury and Neptune also in Libra. My Sun and Venus are in the 5th with Neptune and Mercury in the 6th.

My experience of Virgo and relationship is that I am fine with either state. I lean toward partnership because Taurus/Venus rules my chart and I have those 3 planets in Libra (and Jupiter in the 7th). However, I was also fine being single and realize the advantages of both. I have the Virgo characteristic of being self-contained, and the truth is, the only relationships that work for me are ones that allow me a great degree of independence. Fortunately, my hubby was born only 10 days before me--another Virgo who gets it! :)