Article © 2010-13 by Joyce Mason
Coincidences are spiritual puns.
--G.K. Chesterton (1874 - 1936)
My friends
call me the Queen of Synchronicity. I write about meaningful coincidences
often, because I believe they’re the cosmic feedback that
our lives are aligned with the greater good and the flow of creation.
I’d like to share some of my latest syncs—they’re so dramatic!—and then talk about this phenomenon and how to tune into it.
Synchronicity
is
the experience of two or more events that are apparently causally
unrelated occurring together in a meaningful manner. To count as
synchronicity, the events should be unlikely to occur together by
chance.
The concept of synchronicity suggests, just as events can be grouped by cause, they can be grouped by their meaning.
The Power of Three
My first spiritual teacher taught me that when something happens in
threes, it’s like a divine tap on the shoulder. Believe me, it’s much
better to “get it” when it’s just a tap. You don’t want to be bullheaded
or oblivious and need “a house to fall on your head,” like my mom used
to say. (It’s better to be The Queen than to get crowned by falling real
estate.)
I got that synch-in’ feeling over poetry just before I wrote this article.
Synch #1:
In mid-April, I stumbled across the title of a book quite by accident
while cruising Amazon for something else. It caught my eye and my whole
body in a visceral reaction. It made me buzz, like everything in me was
yelling
yes! It’s called
Saved by a Poem by Kim Rosen. It’s all about using poetry for healing. My post on
Write Anything!
shows I was ready deep in my psyche to rediscover this excellent form
of personal therapy … not to mention that I cut my teeth as a writer
scribing poetry. (I bit right into the poetic teething ring.) I bought
the book immediately. Saved by a Poem has an accompanying CD with poems
read by a variety of well-known people I admire. I thoroughly enjoyed
listening to it on a recent trip out of town and was inspired by the
potential of reclaiming my identity as a poet.
Synch #2: On April 20 2010, again, just before I first wrote this piece, Chiron changed signs from Aquarius to
Pisces. Since Chiron is my astrological specialty, I wrote a post about
what to expect during
Chiron in Pisces.
As I checked out other posts on the topic, I noticed that other
bloggers or their readers were writing—or commenting—in poetry! It makes
total sense that Chiron in Pisces would portend using the fine arts as
healing modalities, as Chiron is about the wounding and healing process
that leads to wholeness. Pisces is the sign famous for being artsy. I
expect not only poetry but also music, art, and dance to become more
prevalent as forms of therapy over the next nine years, the duration of
Chiron’s stay in Pisces.
Synch #3: I attended the
Northern California Publishers and Authors Conference in Sacramento. The keynote address was by Dominique Raccah of
Sourcebooks,
the biggest “small” publisher the US—and I might add, a very
progressive one. In her amazing analysis of how publishing is morphing
into a multimedia adventure, Dominique mentioned a new poetry site she
sponsors,
Poetry Speaks.
This site pays more homage to poetry and its possibilities than I’ve
seen in my lifetime. I am wowed! It was another clear indicator that it
was time to renew my lapsed poetic license.
Sync-o-pation
Sometimes synchronicities are so numerous in an encounter, they make
me dizzy! I attended a seminar on adoption in the San Francisco Bay
area given by
Nancy Verrier, author of
The Primal Wound and
Coming Home to Self.
Although geared to anyone in the adoption triad—adults adopted as
children, birth or adoptive parents—the majority of those in attendance
were people like me, adopted adults still dealing with the psychological
implications of this early loss.
At the first break, I
met a woman I’ll call Sarah. Turns out she, too, had traveled from my
same Northern California metro area to attend the seminar. But that was
just the beginning of the “coincidences” and commonalities. When she
gave me her card, I noted she was also a writer. Sarah and I were born
within a few years of one another. Both our birth moms were from the
same East Coast city—but moved to a different city, the same one where
we were each born. She was adopted through an agency in the suburb where
I spent my pre-teen and teenage years—and her adoptive mom is from the
West Coast city where my birth mom eventually moved, the place where I
found Original Mom in 1986. It’s as though our birth, adoption, and
mother finds were following the same map!
Sarah and I
knew our meeting was “meant to be” and full of wonder about why we were drawn
together! Or why we’re using the same life map.
The
sync that brought tears to my eyes, though, was a young man in his 40s.
He is the janitor for the facility where the adoption seminar was held.
He had no idea this was the event to which he was “assigned” that
Saturday. I’ll call him Matthew. Matt is in his early 40s and had just
recently resumed his quest to find his birth mom back in the Midwest. He
told my therapist he had learned more that day, talking to other
adoptees and overhearing the seminar, than he had learned in his entire
life about his psychological make-up. He kept talking about how
validating it was to meet other people like himself. His girlfriend had
come over—no doubt because of an animated cell phone call from him. They
were beaming. Watching such breakthrough and bounty of affirmation had
me headfirst in the Kleenex box. I still sniffle writing about it!
Tuning Up Your Synch-o-Meter
One of the key ways to bring synchronicity into your life is to turn
up your hearing aids, so to speak. I believe synchronicities abound,
but we don’t always see or hear them. If you’re particularly focused on
an area of pursuit in your life or a subject that’s on your mind, watch
for instances where the topic pops up. Be alert and vigilant.
An excellent example was when I was getting the divine nudge to find
my birth mother. I was never interested in “finding” till the subject
of adoption started cropping up wherever I went. Ultimately, I realized
this was Spirit saying
hello? I finally realized could not truly
know myself without reconnecting with my biological family. It was one
of the best hints I ever took and crucial to my personal evolution.
Then there’s also what I call lighting up in
yellow highlighter.
When I first found the book on poetry and healing, I wasn’t especially
onto the idea that reclaiming my identity as a poet was in the wings for
me. But something about that book “lit up” for me. I felt like God & Company put a big splash of yellow highlighter on the incident
in the book of my life. Watch for it!
How Synchronicity Works
I believe synchronicity is simply the outcome of the law of dynamic attraction. I talk about it in
Your Cosmic Tractor Beam.
We draw "the right" people when we are in our true energy or resonate
on our unique frequency. People on our general bandwidth or same
beam are drawn to us. This is also true for things and experiences.
What’s going on in our thoughts and feelings—especially feelings—draws
to us everything we need to answer the question, solve the puzzle, or
fulfill ourselves. We become magnets of all the physical and spiritual
stuff we need to create growth and meaning in our lives. “What a piece
of work is man,” Shakespeare said, “How noble in reason. How infinite
his faculties.” But look at what we have to work with! Divine substance
is awesome, a word so overused, I reserve it only for the magnificence
of All That Is.
Bottom line: That flow of abundance is there. We just have to get on beat with it. Sharpen your senses.
And that thing I said about emotion? Adult adoptees have many
residual emotions about their early abandonment. It’s no surprise that
this subject matter makes synchronicities pop like microwave Orville
Redenbacher’s. My own mother-find was so laced with these
“coincidences,” you’d swear I was making them up.
In the Sync Hole
Once you’ve gotten a good sense of how this works by experience, you
will miss them painfully if your synchronicities take a powder. When I
was going through some of the most difficult trials with my husband’s
health and happiness, I lost all touch with my synchronistic “flow.” It
was depressing, and I felt almost abandoned by God. I can’t remember
another time when I felt such a deep loss of spiritual connection.
Even
this experience is a reminder why synchronicity is the stuff of spirit.
There’s a reason why the adoption experience seems to draw more
synchronicities than any other topic—at least in my life. Adoption is
about being cut off from your original source—your biological parents.
When we are “out of sync,” we are out of touch with our larger Original
Source—God/ Goddess/All That Is. I’m convinced that a major reason why I
was adopted in this life was to be able to help others heal that
disconnection to reconnection through my writing.
The Synchronicity Symphony
Synchronicity is simply tuning into the beat of life, the flow of
events, and paying close attention to divine orchestration. Trust me.
It’s there. We live in so much competing noise; it’s amazing we can hear
anything at all. Put on some “ear blinders,” and you’ll see that the
real action has been going on in the background, behind the traffic
sounds, the TV, and endless chatter.
For music lessons,
you might keep a section in your journal where you notice how many
things in a given day “respond” to questions on your mind or suggest
paths you might take. It’s a new way of seeing, but the rewards are
dramatic. Synchronicity has led me to reconnect with my lost loves and
to realize that I was never disconnected from them in spirit—or the One
Love in which we’re all joined.
That connection is a note replayed in every “coincidence.” It’s a grace note.
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