tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7881668285026141614.post8011319782661427438..comments2023-10-19T23:55:34.695-05:00Comments on The Radical Virgo: Dis-appointmentJoyce Masonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13462878902674014180noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7881668285026141614.post-82441579760920828332013-10-05T10:05:09.380-05:002013-10-05T10:05:09.380-05:00Dear Anonymous,
I feel your pain, and I also know...Dear Anonymous,<br /><br />I feel your pain, and I also know from years of unresolved grief that this kind of closure can only come from inside yourself. One of my most difficult lessons in maturity has been going from mourning what could have been to being willing to see what is. I liken the loss to a miscarriage and even in nature, pregnancies are often interrupted because there is something "wrong" with the child, such as a serious birth defect. Your man's reaction says it all. He may even have deeper feelings underneath it all, but unless or until he's willing to grow and step up to the plate to deal with his own "stuff," including his fears, you've made the only mentally and emotionally healthy decision you can make for yourself. Wishing you much healing and hoping you find other things on these pages that help. And if you like poetry, there are some poems on my blog, Stitched Verse, that may offer some vicarious emotional release. It's linked in the sidebar of this blog. <br /><br />Every blessing,<br />JoyceJoyce Masonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13462878902674014180noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7881668285026141614.post-2148660695984097952013-10-05T07:56:15.700-05:002013-10-05T07:56:15.700-05:00This post is very timely for me. I am still reeli...This post is very timely for me. I am still reeling over the loss of a man I loved, and I was the one who walked away. He would not step up to the next level with me, and time was up. He was also being dishonest, and treating me badly. He said he didn't know what he wanted, and that he can't move forward due to fear. Part of me wanted to stay and help, but the other part said it was time for him to accept responsibility, face the fear, and grow up. My own life is important too. <br /><br />I had an astrologer tell me that he was seeing me as only half a person, that he could not relate to me in my strength, and what I did would ultimately not only be good for myself, but would be good for him too, as he needs to learn the lesson. <br /><br />A psychic told me that while we loved each other, there was something inside him that would keep me from living the life I was meant to live; I would have to make sacrifices to stay happy in that relationship.<br /><br />A tarot reader said that although I regarded this as a loss, it was the right thing to happen; if I had stayed, there would be more pain, more loss, and it would not be worth the time to invest in it anymore, and that the future will be different, and better.<br /><br />I hope they are right because I miss him. I know it's what I had to do, but it really hurts, and the fact that it doesn't seem to matter to him makes it even worse. There has been no closure, and that's the worst part. Talk about something that was interrupted.<br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com